Is There A Simple Way To Build Self-Esteem That Could Help Ease The Struggle?
Perhaps you were full of hope for a relationship that ended badly. Perhaps you were doing your best to please a difficult boss, yet you still lost your job. Life isn't supposed to be this hard.
You're likely bordering on emotional exhaustion. Your beliefs, your self worth and your world have been turned upside down. You probably blame yourself and might be wondering if you can still trust yourself and your choices.
The life issues you’re dealing with can have a huge impact on your self-esteem. Addressing this single piece, your self-esteem, can help everything else fall into place. Raising your self-esteem can give you the energy and focus you need to tackle these issues when they come up. And when you feel better about yourself, those issues may not seem quite as big.
You know it's important to increase your self-esteem, but they don't typically teach these critical life skills in school or in the workplace. Where do you turn?
It's Like Being Lost In The Woods
This can feel a lot like being lost in the woods, not knowing which way to turn. Finding a well marked trail, a clear path you know is leading you in the right direction, would be a life saver. Then each step you take brings you safely closer to where you want to be.
I've been lost, too. When my third marriage fell apart, my world was shattered. It was the wake-up call that left me questioning all I believed. Soon after, I left the corporate world, and my self-worth, from being the provider, was gone.
There was no one to take care of, no one to love, no one to come home to. Even my health suffered. I spent years searching, stumbling and exploring thorny 'shortcuts'.
Through the trial and error, and the falling down and the getting back up, I eventually found my way and learned to trust myself, to love myself, to be myself. It was slow, but it was so worth it.
What does 'so worth it' look like? I have been in a loving, nurturing, supportive, stable relationship for over five years. I work from home, doing things that I love, things that contribute to the well being and upliftment of myself and others. I love who I am and who I am becoming.
I can't promise your path will end up in exactly this place, but know that every step you take towards higher self-esteem makes the rest of the journey more joyful.
If Only You Had A Guide To Follow
Having someone who has walked this path before, who knows the territory and who has left you breadcrumbs to follow can make your journey a lot shorter. Obstacles that once seemed insurmountable can be managed when the path through or around them is clearly marked.
Knowing you can walk at a pace that is comfortable to you, that you can take a break or a rest when you feel called to, helps you relax and build confidence with each step you take.
A little bit at a time, step by step, and before you know it, you are out of the forest, standing in warm sunshine...
Introducing The Self-Esteem Playbook
My co-author and life-partner, Melissa, and I have attended quite a few intensive courses in the area of self growth. We've blazed a trail working through our own self-esteem issues.
Guiding others in feeling better about themselves, through both personal coaching and over 5 years of leading monthly self-esteem workshops, has given us the clarity to be able to shorten the trail and make it easier for you to follow.
We've taken our own experiences, along with what we've learned helping others, and condensed what works into an easy to follow, easy to implement, step by step guide.
Here's some of what you can expect from doing the exercises in The Self-Esteem Playbook:
- Like who you see in the mirror
- Know that you are not broken
- Know that you are a valuable human being
- Trust yourself and your choices
- Experience less struggle, more joy
How Do You Get There From Here?
Here are a few examples of some of the stepping stones included in The Self-Esteem Playbook that help you grow your self-esteem:
- Two powerfully simple methods to feel better about yourself in under 2 minutes
- Key resources and tips that help you build supportive habits to
increase your energy and zest for life
- A powerful forgiveness process that helps you release past baggage and blame, empowering you to feel more connection in your relationships
- Two fun techniques that develop your sense of appreciation and an uplifting perspective
so you can experience more joy and happiness in your life
- A rarely taught approach for creating customized affirmations that your mind will readily accept as believable, allowing you to more quickly create your desired way of being
- Structured baby steps that build over time and increase your
trust in yourself and your choices
You Can Do This
You are not broken. You may be feeling disempowered, but you are still capable of taking baby steps that help you feel better. Perhaps you wish someone could do it for you. My experience has been that it is more empowering to take personal responsibility and actually do something yourself to improve a situation, than it is to depend completely on someone else.
Reaching out to a coach, therapist, counselor or friend, can be hugely valuable. Asking for help when you need it is important, but also realize you are wanting to get your self-esteem to a place where how you feel is not dependant on someone else.
With or without help, the more you take an active role in bettering yourself and your situation, the better you will feel. Walking out of the forest, even if you have to lean on someone else, gives you a sense of accomplishment you don't get from being carried out.
The Self-Esteem Playbook is designed for you to be able to do on your own, at a pace that feels good to you. It is laid out in bite sized steps that you can easily follow.
It is perfectly OK to go through the exercises with a friend, partner or therapist, as long as it is someone you trust, someone who holds the best intentions for you.
"Before I found you and The Self-Esteem Playbook I was sitting on my couch crying pretty much every day.
I was so paralyzed by all the past experiences I've been through that I was too scared to leave my house and I didn't even have enough energy to clean or take care of my husband. I was miserable.
The Self-Esteem Playbook gave me the inspiration and bite-size tools to resolve issues from my past and start approaching my life more positively.
Wow, what a journey! Now, not only can I leave my house without fear, but I have even taken several plane trips (I was also afraid of flying) and I'm full of energy!
I think the biggest difference is that I'm proud of who I am now, even as I'm still discovering my life purpose and how I want to bring that to the world.
I can't thank you enough, for saving my marriage, giving me the tools to release the past yuckiness, and helping me to be who I really want to be - the playful, laughing, caring, energized Kristen!"
You don't have to be in dire straights to benefit from higher self-esteem. And you don't have to take a test to find out what your "self-esteem level" is before doing something to increase it. Even people who feel good about themselves are constantly doing the practices in this playbook to sustain their high self-esteem. There's no limit to how good you can feel about yourself!
Can You Have Too Much Self-Esteem?
You can't have too much self-esteem. The egotistical and 'big-headed' people who are often stereotyped as having too much self-esteem, actually have low self-esteem. They choose to puff themselves up and pretend to be better than everyone else so they can feel better about themselves.
When you have true high self-esteem, you don't need to compare yourself to anyone else in order to feel good about yourself. You feel good about yourself naturally, and you genuinely prefer that other people feel good about themselves too.
As long as I'm dispelling myths, I'd like you to know that having high self-esteem doesn't mean you will never have a bad day. With a healthy self-esteem, you continue to love yourself and be kind to yourself, even when you do have the occasional bad day. Because you are being gentle and loving with yourself, the day may be a little easier to get through.
No matter where your self-esteem is right now, or what your life experience has been so far, a healthy self-esteem makes your journey way more enjoyable. You can increase your self-esteem, step-by-step, by using the uplifting practices in The Self-Esteem Playbook. It works, as long as you are willing to play with the exercises.
Be Honest With Yourself
Are you tired of the way things are? Is your heart crying for relief? I’m sorry for what you’re going through. I know it isn’t easy.
You already know you need some help in the area of self-esteem, or you wouldn’t be reading this. The pain you’re feeling has served a valuable purpose. It has gotten your attention.
Being aware there is a problem and looking for a solution is a huge step that deserves to be acknowledged.
“There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~Anaïs Nin
There is so much more that you deserve to feel good about. You are important. Your feelings are important. Your life is important. The lives you touch are important.
Anytime you make a decision or take an action that resonates with your heart, you naturally feel good about yourself. Conversely, when you make a decision or take an action that doesn’t feel good to you, your self-esteem and self-respect takes a hit. Every decision, every action, matters.
If what you’ve read here resonates with you, and if getting The Self-Esteem Playbook is a decision you can make and feel good about, then now is the best time to act.
Don’t let another day go by without having the tools and the support you need to begin turning things around. If this offer doesn’t resonate with you, honor that. And please keep searching and find help somewhere that does feel good to you. The world needs you. Decide, right now, to blossom as brightly as you can.
"The Self-Esteem Playbook continues to help me as a hugely valuable resource whenever I run into obstacles. Thank you!"
The Heart Of The Offer
The Self-Esteem Playbook is a 52-page PDF download (or printed hard copy shipped to you) full of inspiring exercises, uplifting messages and links to supportive resources. The PDF format will work on virtually any computer, tablet or reader.
The playbook is organized into 13 stepping stones that gently guide you on your path of uplifting your self-esteem on a day-to-day basis. None of them are hard. The entire contents have deliberately been kept simple, so there is no chance you'll get overwhelmed.
Some exercises involve inner reflection, some are self nurturing, some are written, some are physical, some involve your environment. There is a good variety so that you stay interested and engaged.
Additional Gifted Support Materials To Ease Your Journey
To make it even easier to stay on your path to building and sustaining your
high self-esteem, we want to also give you these supportive tools:
- The Elusive Here & Now (ebook/pdf download)
by Dan Coppersmith, is full
of beautiful nature photography and heartfelt, uplifting poetry that will
lovingly help you heal, and accept and appreciate your humanity. This is easily digestible nourishment for your mind, your heart and your soul.
- Affirmations Expansion Pack (mp3 & pdf downloads) You'll learn all about creating powerful affirmations for yourself in The Self-Esteem Playbook, and with this expansion pack you'll have a wide range of 100 carefully selected, effective affirmations to use right away.
Use the written version to post around your home, or read along as you listen to the recorded version. You can even play the recording while driving or doing other tasks, keeping yourself in an uplifted state as you go about your day.
- NLP Emotion Releaser Recording (mp3 download)
Life Coach and NLP Master Melissa Cantrelle. This recording will guide you through a simple, yet powerful process for
identifying and releasing negative emotions from your past that
may still be limiting you now. It's a coaching session you
can use again and again.
- Laminated Hello World Self-Esteem Poem / Poster
healing artist Dan Coppersmith. This 8" by 12" laminated poem is the most uplifting reading I am aware of.
It is a series of rythmic, rhyming affirmations that are fun to read and surprisingly effective at brightening your mood. It is meant to be read out loud, as a bold declaration to the Universe. You can't help but feel better after reading it.
This laminated version is protected and small enough to be portable so you can take it with you and have this nearly instant upliftment available to you always. Reading it first thing every morning is a powerful way to start your day moving in a positive direction.
(Value $20) Premium Option Only
"This is Fun and inspiring - playful and honest 'work'.
The exercises are great for me."
The 'Love Yourself Enough' Guarantee
While there are many insights to be gained reading The Self-Esteem Playbook, its true value will best be revealed through some personal dedication on your part.
For optimum results, I recommend practicing the exercises in this book for 15 minutes or more a day, for at least a month. You really can't spend too much time on the exercises.
If you love yourself enough to practice just one stepping stone a day for two weeks and you don’t feel your self-esteem is any higher, just let me know and I will cheerfully refund the investment you made in yourself.
"Melissa & Dan deliver what is advertised and more! It was exactly what I was searching for ... inspiring, safe, comfortable and real."
Melissa and I have both spent hours and hours, and well,
years really, reading self-help books, attending personal
development seminars, coaching and more. You can spend your valuable time and money sloshing through the forest like we did, or you can
do something to feel good now.
The path is laid out before you:
We feel honored to be a part of your journey
towards loving yourself, raising your self-esteem, and living the joyful, fulfilling life you deserve to live!
Dan Coppersmith, Healing Artist & Melissa Cantrelle, Life Coach